guilty of not updating lately.
just what am i busy with???
erm... nothing much le...
work lo...
then recently been meeting up with crabby dear for dinner.
come 2 oct onwards i wont be seeing much of crabby dear. so sad... coz on tat day she will be at tampines outlet instd. sad sad sad. but then, tampines is quite near to my hse. a mere 20mins bus journey. aint tat bad la... only tat i will choose to drop by to visit her during the wkends instd of wkdays.
i got myself a lumix. then forgotten that i'm quite a tech idiot. no matter what i do, i still cant get the adjustments done to my liking.
work wise is getting bore. the prob of having TWO bosses. TWO sets of rules!
i cant wear casual to work anymore from monday to thursday. sianz!!!
doubt i can even wear my bermudas on friday.
B looks busy lately.
with the pool competition going on now and his frd's wedding dinner this coming sat. chances of seeing him is dim.
before tues, the last i saw him was last fri. unexpectedly he jio-ed me out on tue eve. now, im counting the days... wed, today, fri (hes working), sat (frd's wedding dinner), sun (hes working).
at least 4 days or even 5 or 6 or 7 before i get to see him. =( wonder if he still remember he owe me the banquet. hmmm... maybe i shd hint hint. =p
oh ya... i finally re-pierced my ear holes. FINALLY!!!
n yes, damn painful sia... but no tears wor. haha...
my colleagues commented tat im crazy.
fancy tattooing more than piercing.
well, given more choices, ya, i rather go for more tattoos.
maybe. just maybe. i will try to convince myself to go for another pair of holes. or two.
we shall see.
Thursday, September 28, 2006
Wednesday, September 20, 2006
whose fault?
Something unpleasant happened during the weekend. Nah, not on myself. But on my buddy, crabby. Luckily, it's kinda been solved. Though it was a huge price to pay.
It occurs to me that, what should one do, when he or she chose to entrust upon another person a responsibility and then the result turns out horribly instead. Friends will turn foes?
Doesn't seem like i'm talking much sense here. Oh well.
The scheduled company trip to Bangkok has been postponed with thanks to the military coup happening now. Phew... i can't imagine the situation had we decided to set off earlier instead.
We may be caught in nasty riots or it may be all quietness and peaceful. Who am i kiding???
It occurs to me that, what should one do, when he or she chose to entrust upon another person a responsibility and then the result turns out horribly instead. Friends will turn foes?
Doesn't seem like i'm talking much sense here. Oh well.
The scheduled company trip to Bangkok has been postponed with thanks to the military coup happening now. Phew... i can't imagine the situation had we decided to set off earlier instead.
We may be caught in nasty riots or it may be all quietness and peaceful. Who am i kiding???
Friday, September 15, 2006
90/10
Discover the 90/10 Principle
Author : Stephen Covey ( Management Guru)
It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations).
What is this principle?
10% of life is made up of what happens to you.
90% of life is decided by how you react.
What does this mean?
We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us.
We cannot stop the car from breaking down.
The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off.
A driver may cut us off in traffic.
We have no control over this 10%.
The other 90% is different.
You determine the other 90%.
How?
By your reaction.
You cannot control a red light., but you can control your reaction.
Don't let people fool you;
YOU can control how you react.
Let's use an example.
You are eating breakfast with your family.
Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt.
You have no control over what just what happened.
What happens when the next will be determined by how you react.
You curse.
You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over.
She breaks down in tears.
After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table.
A short verbal battle follows.
You storm upstairs and change your shirt.
Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish
breakfast and get ready for school.
She misses the bus.
Your spouse must leave immediately for work.
You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school.
Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit.
After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school.
Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye.
After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase.
Your day has started terrible.
As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse.
You look forward to coming home.
When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with
your spouse and daughter.
Why?
Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is " D".
You had no control over what happened with the coffee.
How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.
Here is what could have and should have happened .
Coffee splashes over you.
Your daughter is about to cry.
You gently say, "It's ok honey, you just need, to be more careful next time".
Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs.
After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus.
She turns and waves.
You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff.
Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.
Notice the difference?
Two different scenarios.
Both started the same.
Both ended different.
Why? Because of how you REACTED.
You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens.
The other 90% was determined by your reaction.
Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle.
If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge.
Let the attack roll off like water on glass.
You don't have to let the negative comment affect you!
React properly and it will not ruin your day.
A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.
How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic?
Do you lose your temper?
Pound on the steering wheel?
A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off.
Do you curse?
Does your blood pressure skyrocket?
Do you try and bump them?
WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work?
Why let the cars ruin your drive?
Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.
You are told you lost your job.
Why lose sleep and get irritated?
It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job.
The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day.
Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant?
She has no control over what is going on.
Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger.
Why get stressed out?
It will just make things worse.
Now you know the 90-10 principle.
Apply it and you will be amazed at the results.
You will lose nothing if you try it.
The 90-10 principle is incredible.
Very few know and apply this principle.
The result?
Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache. There never seem to be a success in life.
Bad days follow bad days.
Terrible things seem to be constantly happening.
There is constant stress, lack of joy, and broken relationships.
Worry consumes time.
Anger breaks friendships and life seems dreary and is not enjoyed to the fullest.
Friends are lost.
Life is a bore and often seems cruel.
Does this describe you?
If so, do not be discouraged..
You can be different!
Understand and apply the 90/10 principle.
It CAN change your life.........!!!!!!!
Author : Stephen Covey ( Management Guru)
It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations).
What is this principle?
10% of life is made up of what happens to you.
90% of life is decided by how you react.
What does this mean?
We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us.
We cannot stop the car from breaking down.
The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off.
A driver may cut us off in traffic.
We have no control over this 10%.
The other 90% is different.
You determine the other 90%.
How?
By your reaction.
You cannot control a red light., but you can control your reaction.
Don't let people fool you;
YOU can control how you react.
Let's use an example.
You are eating breakfast with your family.
Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt.
You have no control over what just what happened.
What happens when the next will be determined by how you react.
You curse.
You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over.
She breaks down in tears.
After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table.
A short verbal battle follows.
You storm upstairs and change your shirt.
Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish
breakfast and get ready for school.
She misses the bus.
Your spouse must leave immediately for work.
You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school.
Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit.
After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school.
Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye.
After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase.
Your day has started terrible.
As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse.
You look forward to coming home.
When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with
your spouse and daughter.
Why?
Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is " D".
You had no control over what happened with the coffee.
How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.
Here is what could have and should have happened .
Coffee splashes over you.
Your daughter is about to cry.
You gently say, "It's ok honey, you just need, to be more careful next time".
Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs.
After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus.
She turns and waves.
You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff.
Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.
Notice the difference?
Two different scenarios.
Both started the same.
Both ended different.
Why? Because of how you REACTED.
You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens.
The other 90% was determined by your reaction.
Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle.
If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge.
Let the attack roll off like water on glass.
You don't have to let the negative comment affect you!
React properly and it will not ruin your day.
A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.
How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic?
Do you lose your temper?
Pound on the steering wheel?
A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off.
Do you curse?
Does your blood pressure skyrocket?
Do you try and bump them?
WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work?
Why let the cars ruin your drive?
Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.
You are told you lost your job.
Why lose sleep and get irritated?
It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job.
The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day.
Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant?
She has no control over what is going on.
Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger.
Why get stressed out?
It will just make things worse.
Now you know the 90-10 principle.
Apply it and you will be amazed at the results.
You will lose nothing if you try it.
The 90-10 principle is incredible.
Very few know and apply this principle.
The result?
Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache. There never seem to be a success in life.
Bad days follow bad days.
Terrible things seem to be constantly happening.
There is constant stress, lack of joy, and broken relationships.
Worry consumes time.
Anger breaks friendships and life seems dreary and is not enjoyed to the fullest.
Friends are lost.
Life is a bore and often seems cruel.
Does this describe you?
If so, do not be discouraged..
You can be different!
Understand and apply the 90/10 principle.
It CAN change your life.........!!!!!!!
Thursday, September 14, 2006
it takes 2 hands to clap
Was unable to sleep last night. Have been too selfish? Or alittle inclined to being 'little women'.
He asked to me to think if i have been initiating as much since i have been complaining about him.
I need justice to be done.
Where on earth would people msg someone at 8plus to catch a show at 9plus on the same night?
On top of that, i knock off at 6pm. If i'm still lingering outside, won't it meant i'm having an appointment???
Had set my bro aeroplane because of his last minute request.
Those times when i asked him out is i know that he had just knocked off.
Argh!!!
Yet, can't help thinking that it could be either that i've been too used to being 'alone' that passivity has already set in.
He asked to me to think if i have been initiating as much since i have been complaining about him.
I need justice to be done.
Where on earth would people msg someone at 8plus to catch a show at 9plus on the same night?
On top of that, i knock off at 6pm. If i'm still lingering outside, won't it meant i'm having an appointment???
Had set my bro aeroplane because of his last minute request.
Those times when i asked him out is i know that he had just knocked off.
Argh!!!
Yet, can't help thinking that it could be either that i've been too used to being 'alone' that passivity has already set in.
Wednesday, September 13, 2006
useless?
There is this particular book in the Bible that talks rather negatively about life and the teachings. Contradicts the well meaning intentions. Arguing the purposes. Yet, it is still included in the Bible.
Flipping through the pages, the wordings and sentences are indeed depressing. But after i was through with it, i felt otherwise.
Why should we study so much, labour so hard? He may be a very efficient worker and the other a loafer. But in the end, the fate is the same. Just like, whether you are a smoker or not, you still will face death.
No matter how much sorrow is being poured unto us, we tried to be as optimistic as possible. But there are others who don't have that much sorrow. It's not fair. But the end is the same. Death is still waiting upon us.
And the underlying message: to cherish all that is present now. since the end is the same. death is no different to anyone. all the more we must enjoy while we can. work while our hands are able. laugh while our mouth can open. drink while we can swallow.
Just because in the end it is all still useless doesn't mean we have to wither our present time away.
Flipping through the pages, the wordings and sentences are indeed depressing. But after i was through with it, i felt otherwise.
Why should we study so much, labour so hard? He may be a very efficient worker and the other a loafer. But in the end, the fate is the same. Just like, whether you are a smoker or not, you still will face death.
No matter how much sorrow is being poured unto us, we tried to be as optimistic as possible. But there are others who don't have that much sorrow. It's not fair. But the end is the same. Death is still waiting upon us.
And the underlying message: to cherish all that is present now. since the end is the same. death is no different to anyone. all the more we must enjoy while we can. work while our hands are able. laugh while our mouth can open. drink while we can swallow.
Just because in the end it is all still useless doesn't mean we have to wither our present time away.
Tuesday, September 12, 2006
bowling memories
Nothing to blog. Wanted to blog about the bowling session i had with the guys on saturday night yet nothing can come out.
Funny though, been 3 years since i last step into a bowling centre. I should have stuffs to write about. But nope. Mind kinda blank.
Well well...
Funny though, been 3 years since i last step into a bowling centre. I should have stuffs to write about. But nope. Mind kinda blank.
Well well...
Monday, September 11, 2006
9/11
Five years down the road, how are the people coping. What is on everyone's mind? Has peace really returned? Is life not the same anymore?
Five years ago, the magnificent twin towers were striked. Astonishing, shocking and unbelievable looks were set upon the scene. Here, The Straits Times was edited several times Everything was in a frenzy.
Thousands of lives lost.
Triumph was in the air.
Purpose being?
I'm seeking a purpose in life right now. Feeling confused and lost.
Felt cheated by the people around me.
Especially friends. So called friends.
The other day, Steve Irvin lost his life while doing the most enjoyable thing he likes or loves.
That prompts me in thinking, some people live for the passion in their lives. Some live for the loved one. Some people live just because they have to live. Some wanting to give up their lives easily.
And me? I think i have found it. =) I'm just a simple little gal.
Five years ago, the magnificent twin towers were striked. Astonishing, shocking and unbelievable looks were set upon the scene. Here, The Straits Times was edited several times Everything was in a frenzy.
Thousands of lives lost.
Triumph was in the air.
Purpose being?
I'm seeking a purpose in life right now. Feeling confused and lost.
Felt cheated by the people around me.
Especially friends. So called friends.
The other day, Steve Irvin lost his life while doing the most enjoyable thing he likes or loves.
That prompts me in thinking, some people live for the passion in their lives. Some live for the loved one. Some people live just because they have to live. Some wanting to give up their lives easily.
And me? I think i have found it. =) I'm just a simple little gal.
Friday, September 08, 2006
sms
B: hoi hoi~ hav u knock off? n wher wud u b?
M: knock off le.. y le?
B: Ahh~ good! wud u like to ask me out then?
M: Ohh... u wearing skirts tdy?
B: Nah, i figured that u b in pants tdy.
M: hmm.. ur instincts failed u le..
B: Wow! guess i've yet to master the book.
M: Haha.. wher r u ?
B: C'wealth dat will b.
M: u tire of rottin at hm huh..
B: Ahhh~ u noe me well.
M: Sir, wher would u like to go?
B: Dat wud b ur choice. wher wud u like 2 bring me 2. *puts on skirt*
M: A true gentleman must always respect the lady's choice, my lady.
B: Wud u like to bring me to bugis then?
M: n satisfy ur mee pok cravings?
B: Wat else can i hide from u? keke
*he can be such a teaser... makes me always debating whether to cry or to laugh... n it's not the first time i can burst out laughing in the public while reading his smses...
*i was alittle surprised by the reply he had given after i smsed him 'hm sweet hm'... he actually asked y so late...
*sweetness in the heart...
M: knock off le.. y le?
B: Ahh~ good! wud u like to ask me out then?
M: Ohh... u wearing skirts tdy?
B: Nah, i figured that u b in pants tdy.
M: hmm.. ur instincts failed u le..
B: Wow! guess i've yet to master the book.
M: Haha.. wher r u ?
B: C'wealth dat will b.
M: u tire of rottin at hm huh..
B: Ahhh~ u noe me well.
M: Sir, wher would u like to go?
B: Dat wud b ur choice. wher wud u like 2 bring me 2. *puts on skirt*
M: A true gentleman must always respect the lady's choice, my lady.
B: Wud u like to bring me to bugis then?
M: n satisfy ur mee pok cravings?
B: Wat else can i hide from u? keke
*he can be such a teaser... makes me always debating whether to cry or to laugh... n it's not the first time i can burst out laughing in the public while reading his smses...
*i was alittle surprised by the reply he had given after i smsed him 'hm sweet hm'... he actually asked y so late...
*sweetness in the heart...
Thursday, September 07, 2006
Journey
Everyone has their own journey of life. Trekking through the ups and downs along the trail of the mountains. Facing all sorts of weather condition. Trying to brave through it all. And all these in the name of what?... Self recognition? Self worth? Self confidence?
There are people who lives for others. There are those who live for themelves. Who are the happier ones? Who are fit to judge?
No one.
The road of happiness can only be determined by oneself. If you deem that person can bring you all the happiness in the world, that person shall affects you greatly.
Why should one bring oneself to endless pain and suffering?
Forcing can never bring one true joy.
At the same time, we shall always cherish what's around us. Holding tight what's within our grasp.
Learnt this from somewhere too, that most importantly know what you are and what you want.
If you are a wandering soul, do not go around breaking hearts.
If you are a commitment soul, do learn do refrain from pouring too much into someone ain't suitable.
If you are a confused soul, do make a self introduction to oneself first.
If you are a greedy soul, do wipe your mouth after the deserts.
*all the above are inspired from somewhere. a sudden thought of philosophy of life. though i'm feeling that somewhere somehow i'm like going crazy. brushing it off to work stress. ya. it's work stress.
There are people who lives for others. There are those who live for themelves. Who are the happier ones? Who are fit to judge?
No one.
The road of happiness can only be determined by oneself. If you deem that person can bring you all the happiness in the world, that person shall affects you greatly.
Why should one bring oneself to endless pain and suffering?
Forcing can never bring one true joy.
At the same time, we shall always cherish what's around us. Holding tight what's within our grasp.
Learnt this from somewhere too, that most importantly know what you are and what you want.
If you are a wandering soul, do not go around breaking hearts.
If you are a commitment soul, do learn do refrain from pouring too much into someone ain't suitable.
If you are a confused soul, do make a self introduction to oneself first.
If you are a greedy soul, do wipe your mouth after the deserts.
*all the above are inspired from somewhere. a sudden thought of philosophy of life. though i'm feeling that somewhere somehow i'm like going crazy. brushing it off to work stress. ya. it's work stress.
Wednesday, September 06, 2006
060906
Yesterday i was brought to Prego by a new date. But what a date it turns out. Argh!!!
Is it because of me not that ready to go for dates anymore or that the date just ain't my cup of tea. I figured it's 50% each. The former due to the presence of someone who is holding a firm ground inside my heart. The latter being, he really is not my kind of guy. Though he is tall, tan (should i say red?, well he's a swimming instructor) and well build. Still, i wasn't at all attracted. Blame it to my mind being occupied by him, hence, i have no wish at all to start anything and therein lies the reluctant in meeting up with him and spending my precious time with him. But the consicousness of not being nice as a friend made me to do otherwise.
Thank goodness it's over and done with. Didn't manage to gain a friend because i was too defensive. Doesn't matter. Just wondering, what if the history repeat itself. Will i succumb again? Now thinking about it, i don't think so. Previously i allow myself to bowl over by the appearance of a third fella because nothing was established at all. Now that the road is slowly progressing, i will not let myself to turn anywhere but straight.
Labelled me dumb or silly. The recent morning calls to him can just made me smile. He has been requesting it more often than before. And the night before, what he had said made me touched. "openly letting ppl know u mean something to me". =)
One of my pals has been saying that things are progessing way too slow for us. But hey, what's the hurry??? The entire msn conversation had somehow pissed me off. Resulted in me being moody. Later when i think of it, her conversation had reminded me of another bro of mine.
I should put this straight across very clearly. I appreciate the care and concern. I don't mind anyone of u people asking me stuff. But please know your limits and the line that you should draw from being too pushy, persistent and simply too much. (Just like the irritating sales person pestering you to really have to buy something when you don't need it.) It's getting too irritating and before you realise it, i will be out of your circle already.
So if anyone of you guys don't wish that to happen, please practise restrain. Full stop.
Is it because of me not that ready to go for dates anymore or that the date just ain't my cup of tea. I figured it's 50% each. The former due to the presence of someone who is holding a firm ground inside my heart. The latter being, he really is not my kind of guy. Though he is tall, tan (should i say red?, well he's a swimming instructor) and well build. Still, i wasn't at all attracted. Blame it to my mind being occupied by him, hence, i have no wish at all to start anything and therein lies the reluctant in meeting up with him and spending my precious time with him. But the consicousness of not being nice as a friend made me to do otherwise.
Thank goodness it's over and done with. Didn't manage to gain a friend because i was too defensive. Doesn't matter. Just wondering, what if the history repeat itself. Will i succumb again? Now thinking about it, i don't think so. Previously i allow myself to bowl over by the appearance of a third fella because nothing was established at all. Now that the road is slowly progressing, i will not let myself to turn anywhere but straight.
Labelled me dumb or silly. The recent morning calls to him can just made me smile. He has been requesting it more often than before. And the night before, what he had said made me touched. "openly letting ppl know u mean something to me". =)
One of my pals has been saying that things are progessing way too slow for us. But hey, what's the hurry??? The entire msn conversation had somehow pissed me off. Resulted in me being moody. Later when i think of it, her conversation had reminded me of another bro of mine.
I should put this straight across very clearly. I appreciate the care and concern. I don't mind anyone of u people asking me stuff. But please know your limits and the line that you should draw from being too pushy, persistent and simply too much. (Just like the irritating sales person pestering you to really have to buy something when you don't need it.) It's getting too irritating and before you realise it, i will be out of your circle already.
So if anyone of you guys don't wish that to happen, please practise restrain. Full stop.
Tuesday, September 05, 2006
5 September 2006
Quite a bit of happenings lately.
Over the weekend, had gotten myself pretty high (fri, @ shin8) and also went to the celebration of Vivian's birthday @ O bar (sat).
Then just as one aspect of my life seem alittle distress, an answer arrived and uplifted it immediately. =)
I learnt that by not putting too much hope, the disappointment will be lesser.
Though it's not easy but the effect is slowly taking effect. And when things are progessing, the joy felt is greater.
Earlier on just as i was about to blog, i came upon one of my secondary classmate's blog. The last time i saw him was about a year ago. And the meeting before that was ten years ago. Many thanks to the technology today, the using of blog, that many of us can know what is happening to one another. It ain't easy catching up and knowing all that is happening around us. We have to divide our time to work, family, spouse, friends, colleagues, personal interests and sleep. Time is simply not enough.
And i know i have given my thanks to frdster not once, for allowing to locate back my old friends. This morning, i have to say thanks to the frdster once more. I have finally found Sandrine, my polymate. She ain't the only one. There are Baldwin, Kelvin, Celestina and Shiyun. All through Michelle.
Though everyone of us is busy with our own lives, but the remembrance is always there.
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We humans are complex. When we do not have it, we yearn for it. But when we have it, we may not be happy. Hence, the feeling of having it and not having it, it's actually the same. It's only how you want to view it and prioritise.
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to be continue...
Over the weekend, had gotten myself pretty high (fri, @ shin8) and also went to the celebration of Vivian's birthday @ O bar (sat).
Then just as one aspect of my life seem alittle distress, an answer arrived and uplifted it immediately. =)
I learnt that by not putting too much hope, the disappointment will be lesser.
Though it's not easy but the effect is slowly taking effect. And when things are progessing, the joy felt is greater.
Earlier on just as i was about to blog, i came upon one of my secondary classmate's blog. The last time i saw him was about a year ago. And the meeting before that was ten years ago. Many thanks to the technology today, the using of blog, that many of us can know what is happening to one another. It ain't easy catching up and knowing all that is happening around us. We have to divide our time to work, family, spouse, friends, colleagues, personal interests and sleep. Time is simply not enough.
And i know i have given my thanks to frdster not once, for allowing to locate back my old friends. This morning, i have to say thanks to the frdster once more. I have finally found Sandrine, my polymate. She ain't the only one. There are Baldwin, Kelvin, Celestina and Shiyun. All through Michelle.
Though everyone of us is busy with our own lives, but the remembrance is always there.
************************************************************************************
We humans are complex. When we do not have it, we yearn for it. But when we have it, we may not be happy. Hence, the feeling of having it and not having it, it's actually the same. It's only how you want to view it and prioritise.
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to be continue...
Friday, September 01, 2006
Thumper Encounter
Last night i was at Thumper with my gf, Wendi, my dearest Sarawak Crab. First time went clubbing with only one friend. Otherwise it was always hanging out in a big group.
I think i prefer to hang out in a big group. The fun is different. Unless i'm in the mood of getting to know guys. Got to know a couple last night. Rather hilarious i would say but end of the day, find it rather meaningless.
Guess i prefer the more in depth kind of friendship than just the superficial kind.
Yet again, when u truly just want the fun and merry, it doesn't matter anymore.
I think i prefer to hang out in a big group. The fun is different. Unless i'm in the mood of getting to know guys. Got to know a couple last night. Rather hilarious i would say but end of the day, find it rather meaningless.
Guess i prefer the more in depth kind of friendship than just the superficial kind.
Yet again, when u truly just want the fun and merry, it doesn't matter anymore.
easy way out
This phrase suddenly came into my mind this morning as i ponder upon the issues of people not wanting to face to reality.
Like in relationships/ marriage, being together with a person whom u know he/she does not love you anymore, but yet refuses to let go. Is it really love that is stopping you to let go or is the 'i'm so used to him' reason. I reckon its the latter. Because you don't want to go through the tedious process to dating, getting to know each other process and adapting period. But what they don't realise is, it's even harder work to work out the maintenance of a long term commitment.
In work, sometimes people switch jobs like changing clothes. Their mindset been switch to 'there must be better fields out there'. Then again, in long running, they will take up even more time to have a good establishment or foundation in securing a stable livelihood.
In any aspects, the easy way out is simply the fastest way to solve a problem but the worst solution ever because of the disastrous result ultimately.
If we slow down our pace, stop and think, reason and logic, live not only for the moment but also at the same to be prepared for the future, we probably would not regret much then.
Like in relationships/ marriage, being together with a person whom u know he/she does not love you anymore, but yet refuses to let go. Is it really love that is stopping you to let go or is the 'i'm so used to him' reason. I reckon its the latter. Because you don't want to go through the tedious process to dating, getting to know each other process and adapting period. But what they don't realise is, it's even harder work to work out the maintenance of a long term commitment.
In work, sometimes people switch jobs like changing clothes. Their mindset been switch to 'there must be better fields out there'. Then again, in long running, they will take up even more time to have a good establishment or foundation in securing a stable livelihood.
In any aspects, the easy way out is simply the fastest way to solve a problem but the worst solution ever because of the disastrous result ultimately.
If we slow down our pace, stop and think, reason and logic, live not only for the moment but also at the same to be prepared for the future, we probably would not regret much then.
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